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References to products, offers, and rates from third party sites often change. While we do our best to keep these updated, numbers stated on this site may differ from actual numbers. We may have financial relationships with some of the companies mentioned on this website. Anger is always the most obvious answer when it comes to men. The anger will become even more obvious if he loves the other woman very much and the thought of someone else having her will drive him wild.
He tried. This man tried so hard to make her happy, even though he knew that his wife was waiting for him at home.
Pursuing her would probably put his marriage in a weird position, because not every man wants to divorce his wife right away. His mistress left him, his wife hates him, and no one around him seems to understand why he did what he did.
That same mistress is leaving him now, after making him feel like the most wanted man in the universe. Have you ever seen a man who has lost all hope? Or ex-wife? He fell in love with her and she probably loved him as well. Things just got out of control and she had to make a decision — she chose to walk away. He wants to be with her, obviously.
Now that same happiness has turned into a broken heart. He once told her that he loved her and he probably said those same words to her while he was cheating.
All those empty promises were broken by him a long time ago. He loved the other woman. My Dear friends online, My name is amanda bella And i live in USA, ohio, I have to give this miraculous testimony, which is so unbelievable until now.
I had a problem with my Ex husband 2 years ago, which lead to our break up. I was not myself again, i felt so empty inside me, my love and financial situation became worst, until a close friend of mine told me about a spell caster who helped her in the same problem too his name is Doctor Jude. I email the spell caster and i told him my problem and i did what he asked of me, to cut the long story short.
Before i knew what was happen, less than two days my husband gave me a call and told me that he was coming back to me i was so happy to have him back to me. Omg I am so glad I am not alone, I had an affair with a married man, I also told his wife, because everytime I tried to end it he would talk me out of it. I feel awful , I know I hurt her and I was mean for telling her everything.
He will not talk to me or answer any of my calls. I still love him after nine months. Back story: my husband quit his job and his co-worker messaged me asking about him and we started talking and then eventually met. I am married as is he and been seeing each other for the last two months. We spent 3 weeks apart because he was sick and had to finish the semester for school and had no time between two jobs and school.
Ugh I feel so hopeless and cry all the time. I was so depressed before I met him and then happy and all depressed again. I hate feeling this way! Why is it so hard to walk away?! I had an affair to a married man and for months and worked for him for 2 years. After he told his wife about us he fired me from my job and got a restraining order. I am severely hurt, was in depression, and feel lonely and traumatized. I need guidance and help in moving on and not thinking he is a good guy.
I was feeling my heart beat too fast all day and my anxiety at an all time high. After some soul searching I realized that my affair is what is makes my body sick when the high of seeing him wears off. We were friends who used to work together, but after I got married and moved away he would still contact me every now and again as a friend. I cried for days after our first encounter, but then found myself craving and missing him only days later, and missing his companionship by text.
My marriage at the time he contacted me initially was miserable and he confessed he had always been attracted to me. From that day on, this new relationship with my friend ignited something in me I never knew existed.
He awoke me sexually and I began to feed on his attention and still do. Over text we can get deeper and be supportive when we need it.
I know the guilt gets to him but he always says he shoves his feelings down into boxes and can get by like that for a while. It did and I slept and was in and out of consciousness for a few days. I need him to leave me. I base my self worth on his attention and i need to stop. I feel I am slowly dying and not giving my current marriage a chance nor am I giving my son my full attention. There was about months where he went silent and i thought I may die from the pain I felt from that.
But after they subsided I did a lot and started to actually feel happy again. And right when that happened, he messaged me. And just like there, my plans to start a new happier chapter dissipated and here I am again but feeling the worse i have in a really long time. The physical pain is unbearable but I have to hide it to continue on with my life as a mom and a wife and an employee etc.
All those years of hiding in shame and just roboting along with life finally caught up to me. I just dont know how much longer I can keep this up. I dream of being being to let him go and feel any amount of this burden lifted so I can pick myself back up off this cold floor.
Oy, this it hitting on all cylinders! I need help. The dismount is going to be rough. This reallly hit home! Ive been trying to break off this now 2 year relationship for the past 2 years without success. I nearly succeeded last year. Broke it off and walked away.
He cried to hell and back and i took him back after he said his plan with me was to build a future for us and our individual kids. I fell for the bullshit. Why i dont know.. I justified it , i guess, cos he showed me conversations between him and her with agreements regarding how they would split things in their divorce. We work together, he came to me asking for divorce advice.
But i did not date married man so i gave him advice on how to save his marriage instead. He was getting a divorce. Our affair started after the lady moved out — or so he told me. I guess i justified it that they were separated. In hindsight i realise this had to have been agreed upon as the wife started work elsewhere.
I dont know how i got myself in this position. Im a strong independent, beautiful woman. I divorced my ex for this very same reason. And today i find myself being the very same reason why my marriage ended. Told him he has 1 year to sort himself out and decide between is because i cant go on like. Hes 2 weeks away from his deadline and he certainly isnt getting a divorce. Hes planning a birthday party for his kids with his wife instead. I am ashamed, i feel like the worst hypocrite, the guilt kills me and i feel ashamed to even ask God for forgiveness because i keep going back.
But i need to get out. A relationship based on lies and lust and deceit that. There was a time when i truly wanteda future with him.
But im beginning to see now that this is not a future i want. Hes a cheat and a liar and je will do the same to me.. The internal conflict is killing me. I know this comment is old but would like to know how did it go and what helped to move on this is comment sounds like my story please help me if you see this msg thank you.
Whoaminow — i can feel you! When you want to let go but its hard but also hard to keep goin with the affair. I will never want to be in between anymore. I decided to ended the toxic relationship by opening up to his wife and it got messy…they had a fight and he said he chose his wife and i was a huge mistake for him.
It hurts me but my intention is to break free from the lies he has made up all the time…and tell her the truth! It hurts yes but its the right thing to do. Let be brave lady, you and me deserve the best. Trying so hard to get up. Wow, I am the mistress… we know we will never be 1 , we are kept a secret, treated like shit, and then they trash us…at least mine did..
I am in soo much pain and confusion…. I wish to be in a normal relationship.. Wis for a partner who wud love me freely.. We fight a lot back and forth l need the courage to walk out…l know l have to..
M busy looking at advice on how to walk and let go.. Thank you for sharing. At the time we were both in relationships and were not looking for anything, but we clicked. We kept in touch through social media as he lived in a different country. Essentially, swapping one long distance relationship for what was then another long distance relationship.
Quite a few hundred if not thousand messages, video calls, etc. As time passed laughter turned into tears and I grew more and more desperate. I explained over and over that a sexless marriage where one of the parties is essentially nothing more than a glorified housewife and a nanny is not a healthy environment for children to grow.
I fought relentlessly to make him understand that his fears of hurting the children by leaving, though valid were insufficient reason for him to stay on the fence, waiting for her to break it off.
Like at other times, he sent me a message through Messenger, but this one felt different, colder, more real. Scared and aided by a compulsive need to have an immediate answer, I reacted like the crazy ex, but it was hopeless. Hurt and heartbroken, I deactivated my Facebook account and muted him everywhere else on social media. My question is really, am I being foolish to believe things might still change. That love should conquer all and love alone should be sufficient for him to see the reality of his life.
Hi Fabienne, it would be good if I can chat with you offline. Thanks and hope to chat soon. All of your pain is nothing compared to the pain of the one betrayed. Yes the husband is at fault, however it takes two to Tango baby and it warms my heart to know that all of you feel shame and pain for your own sexual deviance. You all are partaking in the abuse and violation of another. You are abusing and violating another without their knowledge and permission and deserve all the pain that you yourselves have put on yourselves.
I too am on the other side. I am the wife. My husband told me after 19 years and 10 months, that he is not happy with the way things are between us. That we are in a routine for the las 3 months.
He said nothing happened, after 5 months, they started flirting and more. They slept together once so I understood, it makes no difference , but he said he had feelings for her.
She is 32, i am 35 and he is She has 2 kids and 2 months prior to their first chat, split up with her boyfriend. I was devasted.
No, torn apart, ripped in pieces and contemplating death. The one whom I want to have sitting next to me when I will be old and wrinkled. He has been a part of my life for the last 22 years.
He than said he wants to stay with me. We took a break for 5 days, I was away. I said no contact but he wrote daily, after that told someone that he missed his coworker.
He did not have any contact to her the 5 days. I came back, he said he wants to make thing work. I said ok, because I knew that we both took our relationship for granted and did not invest any work, it was a routine.
I wanted to make it work and told him that we have to comunicate because he never told me he was bored, he kept everything for himself, or maybe they shared their relationship experiences. He did not want to quit his job because of her being there and neither did I. Because I knew that if he wants us to work, we will work and if not, where she is is irelevant. After 10 days I could tell something isbup. I told him we have to make it happen, not the Holly spirit.
And he cried and begged me to stop saying that I love him because it hurts. He was a mess, a wreck. After we discussed this again where he cried and said he would rather day and how he hurt me and this girl, I put my pain aside and decided that my ego is not so important to me as his health. We have to live together, so instead doing no contact and ultimatums, I decided that I will let him go and be happy with the other woman.
I acted like a friend, we had long conversations about everything and anything and hung out on the balcony Corona virus, we are not allowed to go out. Now he is with his co worker and still is depressed,started drinking and smoking over the limit. Because we suffer and he fucked up.
I told him that people fall in and out of love and if he is in love with her he should go be happy. Knowing that he did not fight for us after 20 years, that he had an affair with someone, that he left me for that one and now, that he is depressed and not the man I know anymore.
He was the king of the world for me and now his self esteem is down. You girls said you suffered. He told me that too, she will suffer. Well imagine how it is to suffer after a sex relationship vs after 20 years where he is the whole world for you, you have all those memories, all those plans and have to completely change your life.
I watched so many youtube videos sbout relationships and one dude wrote something that makes me cry like a baby…. My husband was 20 years all that I needed, everytime things got bad I knew that he is there for me. And he always was. I will be ok…somehow, i will be able maybe to love again.
But now, his well being is more important that my ego. I would never let myself to be in a relationship with a married man. How could I trust someone like that, when I see first handed what he is capable of?
Why do people say the wife should never know? I had one affair with a married man who was French. The guilt and shame almost killed me. I was married to my ex for almost 20 years. I was faithful so I know the pain an affair has on someone. I am still trying to forgive myself but my ex French lover I am afraid this is a common game for him. I am struggling so much with not letting it define the rest of my life. I am also a college student and am in the same shoes as you.
Would sure be nice to talk and support each other during this healing process. I cried reading that last paragraph. I work with the married man I had an affair with. My brother died, I had been suffering from depression and I found pure joy in this human.
I have been trying unsuccessfully to move on for the past 9 months since we stopped having sexual relations but my heart still feels in it. But I want to forgive myself… and move on.
So thank you so much for this. From the bottom of my heart. How to let go if u fall inlove with a married man with2kids in his first mistress and one child from me.? I gave up everything for him even proposed marriage with an american guy who was willing to annul my marriage from my ex husband and adopt my 3 kids…2 from my ex husband and one from the man im inlove now but he is not doing anything for me he is still in the affair of his first mistress as ive found he was out lying..
He wants to be a father all the time for his kids Me as his gf…hopelessly expect he would do the same thing in return just to be together but he let me stay in our province. I want to rest. How cpuld i.
He calls me 4 times a day and more every day. And we spend twice a week. I tried to break it off today. He drove straight over to mine.. I totally relate! Every time I walk away, he he chases…. Anyways I feel so guilty for her heartbreak, yet like a weight has lifted off my shoulders because now hopefully he will let me go so I can pick up the pieces and move on with my life.
Thank you so much for writing this article. My lover and I definitely have a deep connection and it is so hard to see him struggle.
And also he has conveyed to me that his life would be completely ruined his rib Tatian would be destroyed and so forth. His wife has caught him about three times texting With me and one of them was very suggestive. Agreed, this is a good article. Yes, I have been the other woman more than once. Your article is extremely helpful in my current situation.
I would love the pleasure of getting to speak to you via email if possible. This article spoke to me. I had the same experience long distance too. It was a euphoric trip and 12 years later the man still reaches out to me. I almost let myself play in his imagination again, but I decided I deserve a real relationship with not only my best self, but someone solid whenever that timeframe works for me.
Reply N. He moved in to my home. I then found out he was going to rebuild things with his wife for the sake of their 2 year old daughter. I bowed out, heartbroken and on self destruct. During this time, I was raped by someone.
This married man was my support network. We began seeing each other, getting weekends away whenever we could and texting every day telling each other we loved each other and that he will leave her soon. The whole relationship evolved around him and it infuriated me how little remorse or consideration for anybody he had.
We ended things… but still kept in touch. This guilt struck me like nothing ever had. Last night he spent the night at my house. I feel so ashamed of undoing all the progress I had made in rebuilding myself and gaining some self respect and processing the sexual assault.
I hate myself. I feel like I either need to punish myself or do a million good deeds. I feel like karma will take my mum away from me too. I feel dirtier now than I did after I was raped by a stranger. Hi Crista, Thank you for your message. Please email me at fab fabyoulicious. I am in a somewhat the same situation right now as with your story.
Can you please email me? Because I really need someone to talk this with. I am on the verge of giving up on life because of this kind of relationship. Please I really need your help and to take this burden off my chest. I am in this situation now, but as the wife to a man that is cheating with another woman. I had been cheated on a year prior and this new person I was just fed up.
I did get in touch with her soul and asked her why she wanted a man that she could only see when he had time? For me though, I made her dreams come true. He never wanted to leave, but this time he had to go. He decided that he would hit me and I had him arrested and then put a restraining order on him. Which meant his only place to run was to her or his mom some miles away at the age of So she has him now.
Reply Jes. October 22, AT AM. Good for you Nikki, I too am a wife whose husband has cheated on twice that I know of. This time I kicked his sorry backside out. Unfortunately, he refused to stay away from the marital home. He now thinks its ok to stay at the MH in the week and with his mistress at weekends!
Divorce papers lodged at court! Thank you so much for writing this Fabienne. He came into my life as a friend which developed into more. The worst part is having no one to talk to about it. A month ago I ended a year and a half affair I was having with a married man. The guilt, shame, insecurity, secrets and lies were tearing my head and heart apart.
My question to those on here who are the wives. Would you have preferred never to have found out? Would you prefer to live in ignorance of what had happened? I have been told that I am likely not the only person my ex married lover has been intimate with and whilst he told me him and his wife never had sex anymore or got on together she is due their second child in a few months time. I am utterly convinced that once the baby is born he will be back out on the dance scene finding another person to have an affair with whilst she is stuck at home with a toddler and a new baby.
I never wanted him to leave his wife for me and never asked but the more I search my heart I feel like she deserves to know the information he is withholding from her he lies by omission a lot and then if she ever suspected or does suspect in the future she will know to believe her intuition and can make a decision about her future properly.
Is it just best to let her live in blissful ignorance and he can carry on deceiving her in the future? Such a courageous story to share. I often wondered how the other woman felt. If i was hurting was she hurting as well? No one every apoligized to me so you should be proud of yourself for having the power to do that for her. Just so you know all that you spoke about we too feel as being the person being cheated on.
As we feel did we cause this in someway. But thanks again for your isight if helps me want to forgive the other woman. I would love to chat with you about some of the scenarios. I have this heavy burden and I need some help. Your blog is so relatable. I wrote a little of my story further up and want to add to it. Forgiving myself has never been one of my strengths.
Hi Fabienne. You kindly offered to speak to me via email a while back. Just wondering if you still have my email? The bastard lead me on like he was going to leave his wife I still have regrets for talking to his ass in the first place. I have recently connected with a man I knew 20yrs ago He is married but not living as a man and wife. He is in my age group he 64 and I We live miles away we both want to meet and have discussed June We chat every day messaging through wassap, and have shared two phone calls which were both lovely and really super messaging conversations.
However he did not message me yesterday at all. I am confused has he decided to withdraw because maybe he finds himself getting in too deep, or maybe he has had sex with someone and feels guilty, or just as he said in the message, and he does have a large family 6 children 4 adult and 2 youngsters plus 3 grandchildren, and says he just is finding difficulty spreading himself around.
From what I have told you what do you think is going on. Thank you for reading. Kind Regards Edwina. Edwina, please be careful especially as he lives so far away, you only have his word about the platonic marriage.
This was my biggest bug bear, constant all day messaging and every night he was alone. This alone made me feel picked up then rejected. It will crush you living on highs and lows and the longer it goes on the harder it is to leave, even if it is only texts and calls. Mine has changed his whole life, new job making it impossible to see me, no more contact, but if we do see each other around he is all over me saying its me he wants and thinks about. Its taken me ten years to even begin to realise that its all just been a big ego boost to him.
The initial thing feels wonderful but anything else hurts like hell. Hello your story hits home I have been the other woman for almost 11 years. When we met it was like I heard bells crazy we were friend for several years like five maybe a hug or he would kiss men on the forehead. After a long hot summer and he had a lot of honey dos we decides maybe we should do some time apart. So that worked fir about a year then he called me out of the blue and said him and his wife had a bad fight he needed sometime to talk to so we met and had a beer..
And every year since. I am head over heals in love with this man. He is the man of my dreams if ya will. In march of last year I heard that his house was om the market. Yes it was and he was moving to a different state I was crushed, heart broken. Am distressed right now. Am typing this soo late in the night simply because i cannot get sleep Am stressed out.
I feel so horrible for your son. At least, when my father cheated on my mother, I still had one moral role model left. Your married friends broke off with you because they saw that you had no empathy for the wife and harbored a zero-sum mentality.
You say you were your harshest critic but I doubt that is true since you carried on anyway, and blame people who did harshly and correctly judge you. The fact is that you were tested and you showed your true character. There is nothing more to it. Dear D. Thank you for voicing your feelings. May your heart be always filled with love, joy and forgiveness. With kindness,. I want to break it off but he keeps telling me he his dealing with trying to end things on a good note.
I am beyond confused. Please anybody contact me. Thank you for this article. She broke my family and the hearts of my beautiful children. They will never look at their dad the same again. My daughter found a well hidden journal trying to figure out answers and I was writing to desperately trying to heal.
The other woman built up to be a home wrecking whore and the wife a cold hearted crazy bitch. Neither is true and I suppose both are just real victims of the same person. Just so very tragic. Again thanks for the perspective. To have someone who has been betrayed say that both people have been hurt by the same man makes a stark change.
No one knows what its like to be the other woman, its always her who is blamed and shamed. He knew I still loved him. He made a few hurtful comments and passed them off as jokes which alerted me to the fact that things were improving for him and then whilst slowing down on contact but lying to me about finding time for me, I knew he was backing away.
I went out with and sent inappropriate messages to a married man for 4 or more years. We both lied to his wife and hurt her deeply. I feel like I ruined a beautiful marriage and family. If I was married. I would not want my husband involved with anyone else. The marriage vows are sacred. I want to beg her for forgiveness. I know God does not approve of what him and I did.
I am in this position but I am the spouse and my partner was having the affair. Thank you for the post. As painful as it is to read it is also refreshing to get a glimpse into the other parties potential thoughts and feelings.
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